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Having low self-esteem on a regular basis can cause emotional and mental health problems, including depression and anxiety. You probably have days where you feel confident and capable and days where you feel terrible and full of doubt, with many negative thoughts. You can find yourself leaning more toward one or the other, but you still seek a balanced life.

In this case, self-esteem counselling could be useful.

Why Is Having Good Self-Esteem Important?

If you suffer from low self-esteem, it’s possible that you lack confidence in your own abilities, your own personality, or the value you bring to the lives of those around you.

Having high levels of self-esteem, on the other hand, indicates confidence in one’s own abilities and worth.

It’s clear that having high levels of self-esteem is important in order to feel good and live a happy life.

Here are some ways in which therapy targeted at boosting low self-esteem can help you.

You’ll Become More Assertive

When you work at improving your self-esteem through counselling, you’ll find you are able to be more assertive in life, and your negative beliefs about what you can and can’t do will dramatically reduce.

Being assertive at any level can affect how we feel about ourselves, and many say that assertiveness can boost self-esteem and reduce stress. This is because people who are assertive are more likely to be respected and can better handle their personal and professional lives by being able to say “no” when they need to. Being assertive is also a liked trait in the workplace because people who are assertive can offer ideas and suggestions, change the workplace in a positive way, and usually get their coworkers to feel good about them.

You Can Process Past Traumas

Talking about negative life experiences in therapy can help you work through them (e.g., being bullied, experiencing trauma, or emotional, verbal, physical, or sexual abuse). Your therapist’s attitude toward you will never change from being unconditionally accepting and empathetic.

People who have been mistreated may not think they are deserving of better treatment, but counselling can help change that perspective. While engaging in therapy, you will get the confidence to share your genuine feelings about those experiences, including the fact that you do not believe you deserved them.

You Can Learn How To Improve Your Self-Image

Self-image is crucial because it determines how we react to and engage with the world and other people. Having a healthy sense of self-worth is important for our overall happiness and well-being. On the other hand, having a bad opinion of ourselves can make us less happy and less able to do well in these areas.

Through self-esteem counselling, you can learn to understand yourself more and to have a more positive self-image. This might come about through talk therapy or perhaps cognitive behavioural therapy; the direction your therapy takes will depend on your personal situation and what you and your therapist feel is best.

You Can Identify The Source Of Your Low Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem comes from things like events, relationships, or actions that happened in the past or are happening now. With the help of a therapist, you can start to figure out where these worries came from and how they still affect you today, and you can start to be less negative and critical of yourself.

Your therapist might ask you to think about the places and times when you feel best and when you feel worst. If you tell your therapist what you’re thinking, they may be able to help you see any patterns that need to be fixed.

Your Anxiety Levels Can Reduce

Low self-esteem is not like a threat that comes from the outside. Rather, it is an “internal” threat, which means that the person is a threat to themselves and their well-being because of how they feel about themselves and how they act because of that. Low self-esteem is a very real threat that can range from small things, like always giving up in an argument and feeling like a loser, to much more serious things, like hurting yourself because you think you deserve it.

And low self-esteem includes anxiety as well.

Anxiety is a distressing mental condition, as anyone who has felt it can attest. The biggest issue is that anxiety is exacerbated by behaviours that, at most, provide temporary relief, adding insult to injury to the underlying threat posed by low self-esteem. Most commonly, these are behaviours that endanger the individual’s present and future, such as avoidance, addiction, and obsessive-compulsiveness. Anxiety can spiral out of control when people make reasonable but ineffective measures to alleviate it.

A good therapist can arrange for therapy CBT, for example, to combat feelings of low self-esteem, which will reduce anxiety levels. They can also discuss your anxiety to improve low self-esteem levels. In either case, you will feel better.

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